New Group Starting in February!

12-week Online

Help Her Heal

Course for MEN

"Increase Trust and Intimacy in Your Marriage Through Empathy"

Please review PREREQUESITES below

I understand your wife. 

I understand her because I was her. 

I've been through betrayal and have experienced my husband helping me heal.

Now, we enjoy a relationship we never thought was possible.

 

God puts people in our lives to help us change how we see. 

I can help you see and understand your wife in a way you never have before 

that will lead to the connection you both want. 

 

You can help her heal.

I'm committed to giving you the tools and individual guidance needed to help her heal.

She can do it without you,

But she wants to do it with you.

 

Help Her Heal Interview with Deborah - Parts 1 & 2

Course Days & Times

The Next 90 minute Afternoon Course Starts:

Tuesday February 17th at 12:00pm (Pacific Time)

If you want to Register for the next afternoon course 

OR request aFREE 30-minute Consult (your wife is welcome to the consult) to see if this course is right for you,

please fill out the form below:

 

About this course:

  • This group course is very systematic. Each week will reference a chapter in the Help Her Heal book, and you will learn what your wife needs to move forward WITH you in her healing.

  • This course provides opportunities to practice walking through situations you encounter in your relationship with step-by-step guidance on how to show up for your wife with empathy.

  • You will gain education and tools to increase intimacy and build trust in your marriage.

  • The gospel of Jesus Christ will be applied to the principles in the Help Her Heal book.

  • We will be using slides and worksheets as you learn and practice new skills.

  • Each class will be recorded and emailed to you along with any worksheets and/or other videos from group in case you miss a day.

  • COST: $50 per week 

Weekly Topics

WEEK 1: 

  • God’s role and Your role in your wife’s healing
  • Understanding empathy

WEEK 2: 

  • Knowing Your Feelings
  • The Antidote for Shame 

WEEK 3:

   Partnering with God to: 

  • Create Safety
  • Increase Communication
  • Send a Message of Love

WEEK 4:

  • Steps to Managing Your Wife’s Triggers
  • Increasing Your Diligence with God’s Confidence

WEEK 5:

  • AVR Formula to Show Empathy
  • Applying Faith in Your Relationship

WEEK 6:

  • Practicing Communication that Works
  • Recognizing Your Real Enemy

WEEK 7:

  • Seven Principles for Dealing with Conflict
  • Remembering to Reach for Christ in the Storm

WEEK 8:

  • Techniques that Keep You Strong
  • Seeing God’s Hand in Your Life for Needed Strength

WEEK 9:

  • Developing Intimacy
  • Knowing Your Wife Before You “Know” Your Wife

WEEK 10:

  • Formal Disclosure, Impact Letter, Restitution Letter
  • No More Hiding = Healing for Both of You

WEEK 11:

  • Promoting Ongoing Trust and Connection
  • Praying for Her Continued Healing

WEEK 12: 

  • Observations, Questions, and Reflections

 

Prerequisites:

1. At least 90 days of sobriety

2. Have fully disclosed the information about your past behaviors to your wife unless she has requested that you not share that information

3. Purchase the book:

Help Her Heal: An Empathy Workbook for Sex Addicts to Help their Partners Heal by Carol Juergensen Sheets

Help Her Heal is available as a paperback or Kindle version on Amazon:

Link to buy:
Help Her Heal: An Empathy Workbook for Sex Addicts to Help their Partners Heal: Sheets, Carol Juergensen, Katz, Allan J., Bordey, Chris: 9781733922203: Amazon.com: Books

Testimonials:

The following Testimonials were shared by participants who have completed the 12-week course with Deborah held in 2024 and 2025

"This class has helped me understand my wife's trauma better through you. It has also helped me feel like I'm not alone in this process of helping her heal. It has helped me see, feel and understand The Rock better, that is to say the Savior's role in my healing and my wife's as well. This course has been exactly what I've needed, and I am recommending it to a brother-in-law." - Dave

 

"I think it was absolutely critical that a woman is the facilitator for this. We don't speak the same language. Our brains don't follow the same neural pathways. You've opened my eyes to so many things. I just have to say thank you." - Brian

 

"The woman's perspective to me was the best part of the course. It really gave insights that only a woman could bring, and also someone who has gone through it and willing to share was humbling, and I think was such a breath of fresh air and testimony of faith in the power of the Atonement." 

- Jerry

 

"I would definitely recommend this course. I feel like the content is so specific and exactly what people need to make marriage work. Having you facilitate the course provided such great insight that I probably could have thought for years and never got to." - Evan

 

"Deborah, the way you facilitated this group was spot on and your perspective added a whole new depth to where my wife is at and how I can help her so thank you". - Jon

 

"It has been helpful in seeing things in a whole new light, the only problem is that I wish I had access to this years ago. I have never heard empathy explained this way. I would recommend the group not only if you are in bad shape but even if you are in good shape in case something comes up, you can empathize in disagreements or conflict. I like you facilitating this course, you are non-judgmental and understanding. - Q

 

"It's always been helpful to me to get the woman's perspective. It also provides hope because you've done the work and are in a better place and I realize that it is a possibility." - Jim

Facilitator: Deborah Cobb

Deborah has been facilitating betrayal trauma groups for women for 6 years and Help Her Heal groups for two years, as well as working with individuals and couples as they heal after betrayal.

She is a Certified Trauma Informed Life Coach, APSATS Trained and Embodied Processing Practitioner and is currently attending graduate school to acquire a Master's degree in Counseling Psychology to become a licensed Marriage and Family Therapist in California.

She has been married for 27 years and has experienced the relational work needed to heal and move forward after betrayal.

She is passionate about partnering with God in providing education and tools for men and women to move forward in their healing and recovery so they can choose to act according to truth.